Congratulations, you’ve just had a baby. Welcome to a world of sisterhood, of solidarity among women. As a wise woman once said to me, children are a great leveller. No matter where you’re from or what you do in life there are going to be many milestones and hurdles you’ll share with the many, many other mothers out there. Unity is great, amazing, liberating and unfortunately, it would seem, unobtainable.
Motherhood to some people is simply another excuse to be a prick- to bully others and to put them down. And no I’m not just being vulgar, I feel ‘prick’ is the best term because by its very definition it is to poke holes in something and these people try to poke holes in other peoples parenting all the time.
It makes sense though, if you think about it. How many pricks have you come across in your life? Like full on proper bullies? I bet it’s been a good few. And how many of them have been female? Well, females have the ability to reproduce and sometimes the bullies do just that. And why wouldn’t they bully others in their new role as mother? It’s only logical. It is, after all, just who they are.
It’s those that have been bullied already at some stage of their lives or those who experience it for the first time on top of just figuring out motherhood that fall prey to these mommy-bullying vultures and I, for one, am sick of it.
I’m sick of breastfeeding versus bottle feeding, breastfeeding for weeks versus breastfeeding for years, co-sleeping versus own room, stay-at-home versus crèche. Seriously pretty much every aspect of parenting has an opposite alternative that people are verging on war over.
I have an incredibly outrageous and radical idea… bear with me, this is going to sound crazy…
MIND YOUR OWN F**KING BUSINESS!
Yes help other mothers, yes support them, yes give advice but other than that shut up and mind your own business.
Don’t preach, don’t put down, don’t belittle.
I don’t care how many children you’ve had or how many books you’ve read, who are you to think you can dictate to anyone else on what they should and shouldn’t do when parenting their children?
Remember no one will be as good a mother to your baby as you are.
Ignore the bullies and just enjoy motherhood.